In my forthcoming The Book of Muck, I talk about the challenges that doing for others may cause. Some of us are fixer-addicts. We can’t help ourselves when we see something that needs to be done or when we think someone needs our help. Helping others is an admirable thing – it can be a dimension of boddichitta. On the other hand, helping when it isn’t requested or needed can cause relationship problems. Read more about it at my Medium blog – https://medium.com/@yvissing/do-it-forism-b7f40780ef23